Does this chatterbox voice (in your head) sound familiar?
“Will he call? What’s the rule again? … Wait three days to call, no wait for them to call you, no it’s whoever asked for the date makes the next move, right? God I hope he calls me. If he doesn’t call me tomorrow should I call him? I wonder what advice my friends would give me?”
And before you know it your first date is over.
A Better Way To Do It
Each first date and each situation is different, so how you handle the time before the second date will vary as well. Here are a few things to keep in mind (and keep your sanity):
A successful first date will not feel like “game playing.” Rather, a successful first date will reveal a level of spoken understanding of a future contact. Open and honest communication is really important whether you are looking for gay love, gay romance, or just more fun in your gay life.
Slow down and embrace “PACING.”
So does this mean you wait a few days, wait a week, wait for him to call you? What helps is to
be conscious of what you are experiencing on the date. Don’t get lost thinking about what is next, think about what IS…right now. If you are on a date that you are enjoying give verbal AND non-verbal cues affirming this, and try to tune into the cues he sends in return.
Be present. Have fun. Pay attention to him and tell the chatterbox to just SHUT. UP. This is your date.
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