Gay Dating Advice: What If He Doesn’t Want to Go Out Again?

The best gay dating advice is this …

Don’t take all the blame on yourself if he is not interested in another date. View dating as exploring compatibility; no one is compatible with everyone, and that is OK. That is what makes finding the elusive Mr. Right so special.

A Date Is Like Trying On A Pair Of Jeans

You have to try on a few pairs before you find the perfect fit. You don’t give up after trying on a pair that makes your butt look big, and you don’t continue to deal with the ill fitting jeans because they are the only ones you tried on so far. You continue looking for the right pair.

Don’t try to force it with the guy that “makes your butt look big”. Keep looking for the guy who fits you just right. We will all be rejected at times in our lives, what matters is how gracefully we deal with the rejection.

It was only a first date.

So, now what? You may want to text the next day and affirm that you had a good time and look forward to seeing him again, and that is fine. A short affirmation that it was an enjoyable experience is very healthy and it sets the tone that you are open to and wanting future contact. Be mindful however, it was just one date, you are not best friends, you are not boyfriends, you are not family.

Don’t send mixed signals.

Establishing an ongoing text/phone conversation may send mixed signals and overwhelm him with too much too soon. You don’t want to come off as pushy or needy. If this is “the one” then you will have the rest of your lives to get to know each other, so no need to rush it.

Time is your friend.

The time between the first and second date should not feel like work. Try not to be worried about the phone call or text because hopefully you set down the groundwork for open communication. Use this second date to continue to explore if you are compatible. The same pacing rules apply to the second date as the first date. Remember that the first few dates are the stepping-stones on the road to a successful, healthy, and happy relationship.

You will find “Mr. Right” and it will be all the more rewarding.