If, towards the end of the first date you realize that you are interested in seeing him again and getting to know him more, say so! You both entered the date under similar pretenses: a date to see if you two are compatible as a gay couple and hopefully have fun along the way. If things seem good to you, then go ahead and ask, “Would you be interested in going on another date?”
The worst thing that might happen is … “No.”
Believe it or not, you can handle it if he doesn’t want to go out again. Really.
Did anyone die?
Did the world end?
Will you be eternally single?
No, it just meant that the chemistry you experienced was not mutual. Disappointing — or embarrassing — as that may seem in the moment, in the long run his first impressions probably match your own better than you realize. Either way, you will be free to move on.
Another scenario.
If he agrees to a second date that is wonderful. You don’t need to feel pressured to set a date and time right then and there. You can contact him a couple days before you would like to see him again. If you do not hear back from him wait a couple days before you try again. Remember there is no need to overwhelm him, but also give the guy the benefit of the doubt if you do not hear back right away.
And what if the second date never happens?
If this is the case look at is a learning experience and try to reflect on what you liked about the guy, what made you compatible, and add this to your mental file of things you are looking for in your version of a really great date.
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This is actually a motivating article for gay men! Hey all gay men out there you do not need to be shy! Live your life
I will definitely recommend it to my gay friends, Thanks